性爱之后

   注意第一片段里面女主角总结的好好，爱情不是人人都可以得到的，sex却很容易满足。
    把握身边爱你的人和你爱的人吧

看到verycd上有下载，忍不住重新下下来，又看了一遍。

多好的电影啊。

假如我是教育部长，一定会强烈推荐给全国高校的学生，作为大学期间必看电影之一，

看完还要写心得体会，开班会集体讨论。



又或者，如果我能遇到机器猫，

我会要它用时间机器带我回到上世纪90年代，

去某个中学校园，

找到某个为超重烦恼，为体育考试烦恼，无聊的时候爱哼一首奇怪的歌的小孩。

我会告诉他，

喂，小孩，虽然《出路》是一首很酷的歌，可是将来很多很多的问题，

哼歌也解决不了的。

所以我把这张碟给你，当你遇到头疼问题的时候，你看看这张碟里的电影就好了。



可是，

当我和机器猫飞回21世纪，

我突然想起来，

糟糕，我忘了送他一台电脑了！

中午看了，有彻肤之感，那短暂的快感过后，会发生争吵，不愿去面对一切的现实，由来的是更多空洞感，那感觉很吓人很害怕。

Christopher & Leslie:

"Doesn't work like that, Christopher. Love is not negotiable."

"Oh baby. Everything is negotiable."

"No, not love. Not love. Love is a guessing game. And that's the beauty of it. There's no guarantee. It's like, diving into a pool of water without knowing if it's shallow or deep. And sure yeah, if shallow you may end up hurt and paralyze from the neck down. But if it's deep, you know, it's a loop of faith. It's like, throwing yourself out there without any guarantees. Dude, that's what life is about. Ok, you know those carnival games? And you know some of them are really hard to win and some of them are super easy and everyone wins?"

"Sure."

"That's the difference between love and sex. Sex is the game where everyone wins a little prize and no one goes home a loser. And love is the game that it's really hard to win. But if you do, and you get to take home that life-size stuffed rhinoceros. It feels a whole lot better than taking home a cheap plastic key chain."

提防、猜疑、试探、防范、进攻、射闪、计谋、策略、犹豫、迷惑。这是爱情战争的主要形式，恋爱的结果并不重要，游戏过程便是一切。
爱情变的尴尬而微妙起来。
以前的爱情，基本上是男女双方与社会环境作战，现在，爱情的主战场转到男人与女人之间。
一个人套起盔甲，正面站着，像是有些坚硬，这是粗粝的人生所要求于他的，而待其慢慢转过身子，背后还是露出了荏弱的部分。但就是这么一些相悖的东西，构成了一个完整的人。这是没有办法的事情。
所以，还是温柔的转身，说出来，“i love you”，等着你的，会是动容的“i love you,too”。

　Love is not negotiable. Love is a guessing game. And that's the beauty of it. There's no guarantees. It's like, diving into a pool of water without knowing if it's shallow or deep. And sure yeah, if it's shallow you end up hurt and paralyzed from neck down. But if it's deep, you know, it's a leap of faith. It's like, throwing yourself out there without any guarantees. That's what life is about. Ok, you know those carnival games? And you know some of them are really hard to win and some of them are super easy and everyone wins? It's just, that's the difference between love and sex. Sex is the game where everyone wins a little prize and no one goes home a loser, and love is the game that's really hard to win. But if you do, and you get to take home that life-size stuffed rhinoceros. It feels a whole lot better than taking home a shitty little plastic key chain.

其实本片是看似有点色，但是挺严肃的探讨性的电影。但可惜的是，美国人的性观念，距离我们中国人实在太远了。
不要说同性恋或性派对，就是看两个人刚云雨之后，还要拼命反驳我们没有爱情，极力否定我对你有感觉，就让我不可理解。性，应该是两个人爱到浓时，无声胜有声的感情升华，那才是美好美妙的，而不是纯动物性的发泄。我觉得好莱坞电影总在传导少年破处还很酷的理念，实在不可理喻，但又客观存在。
感觉本片对性的探讨还仅限于表面，从不同人的侧面来表现人对性、爱的观点，但只是一种反映缺乏深度的思考。

"Love is not negotiable.
Love is a guessing game,
and that’s the beauty of it.

There are no guarantees.
It’s like diving into a pool of water
without knowing if its shallow or deep
and sure [yeah] if its shallow you end up
hurt and paralyzed from the neck down,
but if it's deep…
[you know] it's a leap of faith…
its like throwing yourself out there without
any guarantees, and that’s what life’s about.

You know those carnival games,
you know how some of them are really hard to win
and those that are super easy and everyone wins
well… that’s the difference between love and sex
Sex is the game where everyone wins a little prize
and no one goes home a loser
and Love is the game that’s really hard to win.
but if you do and you get to take home that
life size stuffed rhinoceros
and it feels a whole lot better than taking
home that little shitty plastic key chain."

What is love? Who can specify it?
Except falling in love at the first sight, does love exist in other forms?
Maybe it's when love exists in other forms that it's so difficult for us to admit or to know that we love the other.

Sex and love are separable, but sex and love are blended
for the people in the stories of this movie. That's why after sex they
argued or talked so much.

The old couple wanted so much to tell their happy and wild sex they had in their younger days to their children, but they were afraid their children wouldn't be able to accpept it. They weren't sure how their children would react to it. We, as children, date, fool around, have sex behind parents. The experiences may be good, or bad. But whether it's good or bad, we want so much to share them with our parents just as the old couple wanted to share with their children. If it's good, we want to share the happiness with them; if it's bad, we wish we could turn to them for company.

But we dare not to tell them. We conceal the experiences we care most from the ones whom we want to confide to most. We and our parents cannot open our hearts to each other. Who should be blamed for this? Why can't we take sex naturally and admit all types of sex? We all hate to be constrained by moral rules and social codes, but they are made by us. Why we human beings torture ourselves?